All these things are quite difficult to control or judge. Depends on individuals.. how they think..
It's good to hear tt ur guy took a long period to forget breakups and afraid to hurt pple.. i too took a long time.. abt 1.5 yrs to get over the pain but still cant forget entirely.. another 1 yr to get out of denial, " vow-nv-2-get-into-another-relationship" period and meet new girls.. some may say that such guys r too emotional, nuts.. watever.. heck.. this shows tt these guys r sincere n serious n not the sort who fling around.. they mean commitment.. is good tt u r appreciative of ur bf..
however wat i'm concern is wat is ur relationship hinged upon..i'm not some guru but seems as though ur bf is continuing this relationship for the sake of not hurting u.. pegged by guilt n sympathy.. not genuine love. It's not good to be in an intimate relationship as urs if there is no two-way affection involved. Such relationships dun last. i noe u r loyal which is good but this situation is not doing u justice for all the sacrifices u have done. It would be good if u could find time to sit down to talk abt each others' feelings.. somewhere public n not his home.. or else the discussion might not get very serious.. A stable relationship is built on understanding and trust.. not loyalty, guilt, compassion and sex. all the more so since he dumped u b4.. i thinkg is that if he is capable of doing it once.. a 2nd time wouldn't be any harder.. tt's e reason why i rejected my ex's proposal of reconciliation.. i felt tt she wasn't serious abt our relationship.. as wat pple say.. 1st luv hardest to forget but had to be realistic la.. no matter how much i wanted to get back with her.. check how serious is he gurl.. or else u will find tt u r e one losing in his game..
with regard to ur guy suffering from abstinance.. haha.. all guys in relationships suffer from that in various degrees.. i also can be quite jialat.. but cant ask for too much la.. cannot anyhow play with gf rite.. muz respect her for who she is.. even when she's a willing party.. there muz be a certain limit to things.. yep.. n i always reassure her tt it's fine with the way things r going currently.. dun have to rush things.. most imptly is to know a person better.. i dun think u want to sleep with a stranger for rest of ur life do u.. unless of course u juz take it as one-nite stands..
yep.. this is my 2cents worth.. ok maybe 20cents worth.. good luck.. hope u'll find a balance, self-confidence and happiness