help!!! I suspect my hubby is having an affair!!
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Hi all,
I suspect my hubby is cheating on me. I've a few questions and hope that all you kind souls can help.
(1) what is the tell-tale sign of men having an affair?
(2) how can i sound him off?
(3) why men have affairs?
(4) What can I do to save my marriage?
Thanks a zillion in advance.
god bless,
ling -
y do u suspect so? any evidence?Originally posted by ling1980:Hi all,
I suspect my hubby is cheating on me. I've a few questions and hope that all you kind souls can help.
(1) what is the tell-tale sign of men having an affair?
(2) how can i sound him off?
(3) why men have affairs?
(4) What can I do to save my marriage?
Thanks a zillion in advance.
god bless,
ling -
hire PI
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save ur marriage? if he is really cheating on u, u got the trump card... it all depends whether you can live with the fact that he cheated on u before (of cos he must repent first lah), if you can live with that memory, then forgive him and go on, if not, i guess no point going on...Originally posted by ling1980:Hi all,
I suspect my hubby is cheating on me. I've a few questions and hope that all you kind souls can help.
(1) what is the tell-tale sign of men having an affair?
(2) how can i sound him off?
(3) why men have affairs?
(4) What can I do to save my marriage?
Thanks a zillion in advance.
god bless,
ling -
fight for alimony
after u win, rip his dick off n throw in the blender -
hmmm... let me answer some of those ques for uOriginally posted by ling1980:Hi all,
I suspect my hubby is cheating on me. I've a few questions and hope that all you kind souls can help.
(1) what is the tell-tale sign of men having an affair?
(2) how can i sound him off?
(3) why men have affairs?
(4) What can I do to save my marriage?
Thanks a zillion in advance.
god bless,
ling
1) - He starts receiving phone calls often on weird hours, and answers them secretively and in a soft and sweet voice. (or smses)
- He says he has to meet clients or friends at weird hours, but when u question his friends they didn't know about their meeting
- U start smelling perfume or see lipstick marks on his clothes
- see a love bite that does not belong to yours
- You see reciepts for expensive gifts ("accessories", dresses, etc) and you didn't receive any of them
- He becomes very angry and protective or nervous when you start asking questions of his whereabouts.
2) sound him off? whassat?
3) - sometimes men doesn't like to be tied down to only one woman.
- having sex with different women is different
- maybe he's having problems/stress in work? or in ure relatioonship?
- got seduced by the slut
- some men easily "fall in love"
4) is the marriage worth saving? If he still loves you, and you still love him then make him dump the other woman.
- Don't accuse him and bring up the past everytime ure in an argument
- Try to trust him one last time (dont be so nosy - asking where he went everytime, etc)
- Try being a more understanding, caring and loving wife (if ure not)
- and mostly PRAY alot -
blender........?Originally posted by FireIce:fight for alimony
after u win, rip his dick off n throw in the blender
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...and remember to turn on the blender's power too..Originally posted by FireIce:fight for alimony
after u win, rip his dick off n throw in the blender
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ay...u also guy leh. how can instigate such capital punishment???Originally posted by sgboy2004:...and remember to turn on the blender's power too.. 
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Originally posted by NeonTetra:ay...u also guy leh. how can instigate such capital punishment???
Personally, it doesn't make a difference. -
...for the unfaithful...it's ok... the above is not applicable for buaya...i must say...Originally posted by NeonTetra:ay...u also guy leh. how can instigate such capital punishment??? 
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hey...wat makes u think i am a guy?Originally posted by NeonTetra:ay...u also guy leh. how can instigate such capital punishment??? 
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i let u choose...Originally posted by sgboy2004:hey...wat makes u think i am a guy?
1. GAY
2. BUTCH
3. AH GUA -
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Question:
Can you tell me symptoms to know if my husband is cheating? Please tell me the most common things men do when theyÂ’re cheating. Thanks
Suspicious
Dear Suspicious
While I donÂ’t know what your husband is doing to make you suspicious, itÂ’s clear youÂ’re uncomfortable with whatÂ’s going on. Maybe youÂ’ve picked up signals that your husband has already cheated. Or perhaps your feminine intuition tells you that heÂ’s restless even if he hasnÂ’t yet strayed. At least youÂ’re not in denial and youÂ’re willing to face the possibility that he may be having an affair and to deal with the situation, whatever it is.
Usually someone senses infidelity before becoming consciously aware of it. There are almost always signs - I call them black flags - that indicate thereÂ’s something wrong. These are the typical symptoms of cheating:
Your partner’s sexual behaviour changes: He doesn’t want sex as often; he wants it more often; or he introduces new sexual techniques. Your partner’s emotional pattern changes: He starts getting angry with you for no good reason; he becomes distant and sometimes doesn’t listen to you; or he suddenly becomes incredibly sweet and ingratiating. Your partner’s physical habits change: He starts working out regularly at the gym; he spends much more time taking care of his body; or he goes on a healthy, or not so healthy, food binge. Your partner’s lifestyle changes: He begins to have regular unexplained absences from home; he routinely works late at the office, when he has rarely done this before; or he frequently leaves the house on the pretext of ‘doing something for work or with a friend’.
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*whew*Originally posted by sgboy2004:...for the unfaithful...it's ok... the above is not applicable for buaya...i must say...
about saving your marriage, i'm not sure what the situation now, nor can i say whether your husband is having an affair or not.
but i know this, communication is vital.
1. make your point clear. go straight to the point when talking with
him.
2. let him have some quiet time after work, tell him when you would
like to talk to him.
3. don't jump from 1 topic to another as a man can only handle 1
thing at a time
4. thank him for doing things, don't expect that he knows that you're
thanking him in your heart.
5. use 'will' and 'would' instead of 'can' and 'could', because the 'c'
words question his ability to do something
6. alwayz remember that it takes 2 people to argue but only 1 to
make it up.
7. if you ever argue, don't bring up old grievances, let them die.
8. alwayz talk and not shout if you have a disagreement.
9. if you argue, attack the arguement and not the arguer - in this
case, your husband.
10. tell him that you would like to see things from his point of view
and ask him to explain it to you instead of him saying that you
don't understand.
11. sometimes when men are frustrated, they will not tell you wat's
bothering them. they will go back into their 'cave'. give them
time and they will come out soon. THEN talk to them.
i hope this helps you...
but do tell us why you think that your husband may be cheating on you. it's not good if we list it out as you may see occurances that are not happening but you may THINK that it is happening...
thus i, for one, would like to hear your reasons for suspecting him first. -
its buaya like this alienera who starts having affair with all da sheepsOriginally posted by alienara:*whew*
about saving your marriage, i'm not sure what the situation now, nor can i say whether your husband is having an affair or not.
but i know this, communication is vital.
1. make your point clear. go straight to the point when talking with
him.
2. let him have some quiet time after work, tell him when you would
like to talk to him.
3. don't jump from 1 topic to another as a man can only handle 1
thing at a time
4. thank him for doing things, don't expect that he knows that you're
thanking him in your heart.
5. use 'will' and 'would' instead of 'can' and 'could', because the 'c'
words question his ability to do something
6. alwayz remember that it takes 2 people to argue but only 1 to
make it up.
7. if you ever argue, don't bring up old grievances, let them die.
8. alwayz talk and not shout if you have a disagreement.
9. if you argue, attack the arguement and not the arguer - in this
case, your husband.
10. tell him that you would like to see things from his point of view
and ask him to explain it to you instead of him saying that you
don't understand.
11. sometimes when men are frustrated, they will not tell you wat's
bothering them. they will go back into their 'cave'. give them
time and they will come out soon. THEN talk to them.
i hope this helps you...
but do tell us why you think that your husband may be cheating on you. it's not good if we list it out as you may see occurances that are not happening but you may THINK that it is happening...
thus i, for one, would like to hear your reasons for suspecting him first.
thats why most sheeps u see nowadays are stupid, cause they lost their virginity to this buayaking -
agreed best solutionOriginally posted by NeonTetra:hire PI
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sell yr husband away ala Joseph into slavery. earn $$$,,, and demand alimony at the same time
liquidate yr husband...opps i mean asset. -
*Thinking of something super dramatic...
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hire a (pi) im currently working as a part time (pi) any needs just PM me...Originally posted by ling1980:Hi all,
I suspect my hubby is cheating on me. I've a few questions and hope that all you kind souls can help.
(1) what is the tell-tale sign of men having an affair?
(2) how can i sound him off?
(3) why men have affairs?
(4) What can I do to save my marriage?
Thanks a zillion in advance.
god bless,
ling -
fight for alimony? thats a sound idea.. but later part, ermm, quite mean lei.. heehee...Originally posted by FireIce:fight for alimony
after u win, rip his dick off n throw in the blender
the traditional method of finding out: check his hp lor... oops, pai sei, cant think of any more creative and innovative way of checking up him.. hope evrything's fine for u and him...
cheers.! -
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(1) Work starts to 'pile up'. More overtime, meeting of clients etc.Originally posted by ling1980:Hi all,
I suspect my hubby is cheating on me. I've a few questions and hope that all you kind souls can help.
(1) what is the tell-tale sign of men having an affair?
(2) how can i sound him off?
(3) why men have affairs?
(4) What can I do to save my marriage?
Thanks a zillion in advance.
god bless,
ling
(2) Use 'what-if'. Tell your hubby abt this 'friend' who betrayed his wife's faith. And specially mention if you were 'his' wife, you'd kill 'him'. Add some description to the killing.
(3) 'Cos it is thrilling? Men get bored easily.
(4) Sit down, have a heart-to-heart talk with him. Find out why his heart changed towards you. Work to rectify the problem. Who knows, it may just be a passing fling. -
Originally posted by xavier1979:
i like that one....hehe
(1) Work starts to 'pile up'. More overtime, meeting of clients etc.
(2) Use 'what-if'. Tell your hubby abt this 'friend' who betrayed his wife's faith. And specially mention if you were 'his' wife, you'd kill 'him'. [b]Add some description to the killing.
(3) 'Cos it is thrilling? Men get bored easily.
(4) Sit down, have a heart-to-heart talk with him. Find out why his heart changed towards you. Work to rectify the problem. Who knows, it may just be a passing fling.[/b] -
this is bad enufOriginally posted by xavier1979:Who knows, it may just be a passing fling.