Want to get married but sad enough no dui xiang

• maddo

  12 Sep 05, 12:37

  Dun know why but recently been feeling wanting to get married..
  
  But the sad thing is there is no dui xiang..sigh..wonder is it natural
  instincts to want to get married?
  
  
• ditzy

  12 Sep 05, 12:43

  If I marry you, will you give me all your money?
• sgboy2004

  12 Sep 05, 12:43

  go buy one lah
• charlize

  12 Sep 05, 12:44

  Originally posted by ditzy:

  If I marry you, will you give me all your money?

  Oh behave.
• maddo

  12 Sep 05, 12:46

  I am just a big fool..thats all..
  
  
• ditzy

  12 Sep 05, 12:47

  Originally posted by maddo:

  I am just a big fool..thats all..
  
  

  Good, so I'll take it you will give me all your money?
• mistyblue

  12 Sep 05, 12:50

  is marriage that good????
• dunhav

  12 Sep 05, 12:51

  how old r u ?
• charlize

  12 Sep 05, 12:51

  Originally posted by mistyblue:

  is marriage that good????

  The money's good.
  
  If that's what you mean.
• mistyblue

  12 Sep 05, 12:51

  Originally posted by charlize:

  The money's good.
  
  If that's what you mean.

  If money is good... to hell with marriage
• choco B

  12 Sep 05, 12:54

  This isn't instant noodle leh, just add hot water? Slowly find lah.
• maddo

  12 Sep 05, 12:55

  mistyblue..marriage is not neccessary good..but just dun know why..maybe just want to settle down bah..maybe just want to experience marriage..i don't know..difficult to differentiate my feelings now..
  
  
• renorenal

  12 Sep 05, 16:59

  Originally posted by maddo:

  mistyblue..marriage is not neccessary good..but just dun know why..maybe just want to settle down bah..maybe just want to experience marriage..i don't know..difficult to differentiate my feelings now..
  
  

  Perhaps you are feeling lonely right now, and that you currently believe that having someone by your side whenever you want her to be, would be a better thing.
  
  Feelings come and go, and it messes up our thoughts real bad that sometimes we tend to choose decisions that are not of our interests when we are feeling okay. Perhaps you should give it a few more days or weeks to think it over, maybe the feelings of wanting to get married may only last for a few weeks, and then after that, you don't want it anymore?
  
  Cheer up!
• maddo

  12 Sep 05, 17:10

  Originally posted by renorenal:
  
  
  Perhaps you are feeling lonely right now, and that you currently believe that having someone by your side whenever you want her to be, would be a better thing.
  
  Feelings come and go, and it messes up our thoughts real bad that sometimes we tend to choose decisions that are not of our interests when we are feeling okay. Perhaps you should give it a few more days or weeks to think it over, maybe the feelings of wanting to get married may only last for a few weeks, and then after that, you don't want it anymore?
  
  Cheer up! [/quote]
  
  the thing is tat I have been in this state of wanting and not wanting for a few mths liao..confused by feelings and thoughts along the way..
  
  
• mistyblue

  12 Sep 05, 17:12

  Originally posted by maddo:

  mistyblue..marriage is not neccessary good..but just dun know why..maybe just want to settle down bah..maybe just want to experience marriage..i don't know..difficult to differentiate my feelings now..
  
  

  talk to married people or go read divorce cases, go see unhappily married people ...
  that's enough reason for me...
  
  You wanna settle down.. cause ???
  many people follow, some is cause the parties are over, others want a family and still many more reasons. At least be clear on the motivation or clear on what you do not want and that would root out a number of r/s and you can focus. Being unclear might cause you to just go round in circles.
• chunyong

  12 Sep 05, 17:15

  settle down = 1/2 ur $ gone irregardless of if ur wife is good and/or chio anot. u will lose everything.....then u will think u have everything when the child comes but when the child comes to ur life physically u lose everything again and have to wait 2 decades b4 u can start to 'earn' back ur lost time and effort
• xavier1979

  12 Sep 05, 17:18

  Pardon me, but what's your age?
• ditzy

  12 Sep 05, 17:19

  Originally posted by chunyong:

  settle down = 1/2 ur $ gone irregardless of if ur wife is good and/or chio anot. u will lose everything.....then u will think u have everything when the child comes but when the child comes to ur life physically u lose everything again and have to wait 2 decades b4 u can start to 'earn' back ur lost time and effort

  Fortunately not the whole world thinks like you.
• choco B

  12 Sep 05, 17:22

  I believe some people are the marrying kind . They instictively believe the stuff about 2 halves making one whole, and they want and need a partner in life. For others, the instinct may come later, or never kick in at all.
  
  But it takes time finding the right person. And don't let your over-eagerness cloud your judgement of potential partners. i.e. mai kancheong!

  Originally posted by maddo:

  Dun know why but recently been feeling wanting to get married..
  
  But the sad thing is there is no dui xiang..sigh..wonder is it natural
  instincts to want to get married?
  
  

• mistyblue

  12 Sep 05, 17:23

  Originally posted by ditzy:

  Fortunately not the whole world thinks like you.

  aye!!!
• mistyblue

  12 Sep 05, 17:24

  Originally posted by choco B:

  I believe some people are the marrying kind . They instictively believe the stuff about 2 halves making one whole, and they want and need a partner in life. For others, the instinct may come later, or never kick in at all.
  
  But it takes time finding the right person. And don't let your over-eagerness cloud your judgement of potential partners. i.e. mai kancheong!

  I think its very courageous ..
• chunyong

  12 Sep 05, 17:28

  Originally posted by ditzy:

  Fortunately not the whole world thinks like you.

  eh....its true mah.....wedding banquet mian lui huh ? take photo mian lui huh ? go jiu hu take photo oso need $. attire and stuff no need lui huh ? u think ang pow $ can tiap back the 'hole' meh....bo ko leng lah....although my sis dat time earn 2-3K from the banquet but minus off others still kui.
  
  then gin nah gunihoon mian lui huh ? then wait pwa bee see norgoon mian lui huh ? wait wife when pregnant anyhow catch u this cannot dat cannot u wun du lan huh ?
  
  so.....best is dun marry...if u make the mistake of marrying...dun get her pregnant at all cost. enjoy the intercourse and not the aftermath..
  
  
• ditzy

  12 Sep 05, 17:31

  I never say you're wrong, I just say lucky not the whole world think like that.
• mistyblue

  12 Sep 05, 17:32

  Originally posted by chunyong:

  eh....its true mah.....wedding banquet mian lui huh ? take photo mian lui huh ? go jiu hu take photo oso need $. attire and stuff no need lui huh ? u think ang pow $ can tiap back the 'hole' meh....bo ko leng lah....although my sis dat time earn 2-3K from the banquet but minus off others still kui.
  
  then gin nah gunihoon mian lui huh ? then wait pwa bee see norgoon mian lui huh ? wait wife when pregnant anyhow catch u this cannot dat cannot u wun du lan huh ?
  
  so.....best is dun marry...if u make the mistake of marrying...dun get her pregnant at all cost. enjoy the intercourse and not the aftermath..
  
  

  your views are your views.... its just views... it might be true, it might not come true...
  At least be a bit more positive ... I don't think will harm you in anyway ...
  Everything has its costs, everything also has its benefits.
  As I said, it depends if you see the glass Half full or Half empty
  
  
• chunyong

  12 Sep 05, 17:33

  Originally posted by mistyblue:

  your views are your views.... its just views... it might be true, it might not come true...
  At least be a bit more positive ... I don't think will harm you in anyway ...
  Everything has its costs, everything also has its benefits.
  As I said, it depends if you see the glass Half full or Half empty
  
  

  i think nobody will think like me, i'm born without the love genes anyway...