THOUGH a working mother of two, I and my family do not have a maid but we are lucky to have parents who help mind our children and cook for us.
When my husband and I reach home around 8.30 every night, we take one child each and check their schoolwork or read to them. When they go to bed at 10pm, we do the household chores and wash up, which take about half an hour.
Sometimes, we continue with work we had to take home but if we are spared that, we have some downtime for ourselves. By the time we hit the sack around midnight, we are exhausted.
The routine may seem predictably easy but the little time we spend with our children is stressful because they are active and individualistic. Imposing or inculcating discipline takes a toll on us and we are often tired from lack of sleep, or good sleep.
So, when I was expecting for the third time two years ago, we made a very hard decision to terminate the pregnancy. We just did not have the energy to cope with a third because the first two had taken up all the energy we had.
So far, we have had six years of interrupted sleep and we are not prepared for more.
Finance was also a big consideration as I was almost out of a job then. If I had seen through the pregnancy, I would not have been able to get another job. Relying on a single income was simply too tough because we had to care for our parents as well.
Having two children was more than we could manage and having two more was just too much. Yes, my third pregnancy involved twins. The decision not to have them was doubly difficult.
Wendy Tan (Ms)
How come last time mothers can handle 9 or 10 kids?
Originally posted by Vote PAP OUT to Save SG:How come last time mothers can handle 9 or 10 kids?
cos they not working.
oh my... no matter how hard, i tink the parents should have given the twins a chance to live.
This is just so sad, but a reality of life.
Originally posted by Vote PAP OUT to Save SG:How come last time mothers can handle 9 or 10 kids?
coz' single-income from the father was enough to feed a family of 12....
Fact is that Singaporeans today are more individualistic, materialistic and have higher expectations. That's why money is never enough and sacrifices are just too big to be made.
Duh, Even though it was cruel to terminate the pregnancy but even if thats the case should send it up for adoption if things has to end up this way. What a waste really.
Originally posted by TIB1167D:Duh, Even though it was cruel to terminate the pregnancy but even if thats the case should send it up for adoption if things has to end up this way. What a waste really.
these people are not destitutes, so if they were to have kept the babies, they wouldn't give them up...
Not easy to raise 3 or more kids.
Time and money is the big big issue.
No joke, it's real.
cost of living too high, can't even feed myself how to raise kids
Originally posted by candiz:cost of living too high, can't even feed myself how to raise kids
Why dont you try for one?
At least have a kid in your family.
Just one.
Originally posted by dukedracula:these people are not destitutes, so if they were to have kept the babies, they wouldn't give them up...
Not everybody can 'strike jackpot' by having twins though.
Even if really come to the point really no $, then send it up for adpotion, Why not?
Actually my question is - if they don't want to have more kids - why didn't they use contraceptives!?!
terminated pregnancy? shouldnt they plan in advance that if they could not cope at 2, she better not get pregnant? I wonder how she sleep at night, knowing she terminated her foetus.
Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Actually my question is - if they don't want to have more kids - why didn't they use contraceptives!?!
Accidents do happen.
Guess they rather dun hv that 2 kids then to bring them in and everyone suffer. We all must die one day .Just the fate that the babies die before born.