How many of you here are single by choice or by no choice?
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Dude that's what every normal kid does.Originally posted by thehappybunny:lied to parents on several occasions...mostly telling them i had been studying when i in fact had not been
or saying i had CCA when in fact I headed down to the arcade.
its become a very bad habit, and im really trying to get rid of that
Who hasn't lied about going to school and skipping lessons? That's why we need buddies for cover ups. They handle assignments, let us copy their homework and come up with excuses when our parents ring. Like that's the best part about growing up, getting into trouble and feeling guilty.
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Enjoy single life while you can...
When you fall in love...
Nothings but troubles come... -
depends lah but quite ture alsoOriginally posted by popikachu:Enjoy single life while you can...
When you fall in love...
Nothings but troubles come... -
Let the debate begin :-
"Is forced marriage good or bad ?" -
Marriage shld not be forced...
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yeah.... got sparring opponent liao...
But hor, looks like the side I m in is disadvantageous leh... -
Should rephrase ...Originally posted by Nata|ie:Marriage shld not be forced...
Will couples, without noeing each other but agreed to get married , 's marriage work ? -
KNS leh.Originally posted by ispyyy:Should rephrase ...
Will couples, without noeing each other but agreed to get married , 's marriage work ?
Wow.. this one really debatable man.
1. Couples don't know each other but agreed to get married - Might Work
When both partners have the same goal in mind and work together for a better future. No doubt there will be alot of obstacles and getting used to each other, but if both partners are positive about this marriage, then I believe it might work.
2. Might not work
If there are cultural differences or omission of information on either party. When the cards are not fully laid on the table, there is a chance that the other party will feel 'cheated' into the marriage. As the 2 people have not met each other before, chances that they do not 'click' is high.
Seriously, why would people go ahead with pre-arranged marriages? You never know if the husband-to-be is an abusive uncouth or the wife is a party animal who won't take care of the husband? What's in it for them?
Marriages should go according to Love, Destiny and Fate. Not by a 3rd party who thinks that he/she knows what's best for the couple.
IMHO.... -
oei... pick one side leh....Originally posted by Nata|ie:KNS leh.
Wow.. this one really debatable man.
1. Couples don't know each other but agreed to get married - Might Work
When both partners have the same goal in mind and work together for a better future. No doubt there will be alot of obstacles and getting used to each other, but if both partners are positive about this marriage, then I believe it might work.
2. Might not work
If there are cultural differences or omission of information on either party. When the cards are not fully laid on the table, there is a chance that the other party will feel 'cheated' into the marriage. As the 2 people have not met each other before, chances that they do not 'click' is high.
Seriously, why would people go ahead with pre-arranged marriages? You never know if the husband-to-be is an abusive uncouth or the wife is a party animal who won't take care of the husband? What's in it for them?
Marriages should go according to Love, Destiny and Fate. Not by a 3rd party who thinks that he/she knows what's best for the couple.
IMHO....
u pick both side.... how I debate ???
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You pick on my reply leh..
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In these modern society where most are given the chances to be educated, most will understand pre-arranged marriage and no doubt pre-arranged marriages in now are very uncommon. But however, we cant deny the fact tat there are "people" who r willing to accept pre-arranged marriage... And these "people" is proven to have some similar characters in them since they choose the similar path...Originally posted by Nata|ie:2. Might not work
If there are cultural differences or omission of information on either party. When the cards are not fully laid on the table, there is a chance that the other party will feel 'cheated' into the marriage. As the 2 people have not met each other before, chances that they do not 'click' is high.
Seriously, why would people go ahead with pre-arranged marriages? You never know if the husband-to-be is an abusive uncouth or the wife is a party animal who won't take care of the husband? What's in it for them?
Marriages should go according to Love, Destiny and Fate. Not by a 3rd party who thinks that he/she knows what's best for the couple.
Sadly, nothing last forever... Human's character also does not last... Human's personality changes thru time and events... For those normal marriage tat we experience, the click can be very high... But the high is only at tat particular time when both parties gladly say "I do"... But tat doesnt means tat thru time and events, the click will be at the same level... However, wat makes a marriage works is the affections between both parties... The amount of affection is either increased thru time, effort and "click". To further illustrate these type of affection:
Take for example :
if u have used a brand colgate toothpaste for 20 over years, will it be easy for u to switch brand after 20 years ???
This is how I define affection ... And tat type of affections last till one dies...
And of coz, taking back the colgate example... Parents buy toothpaste for their kids... And kids uses the toothpaste without looking at the spec , noeing the cost, noeing the bland and blah blah... Anyway, a toothpaste is just a toothpaste...
After 20 years of using the similar, some kids will grow affection on tat particular brand of toothpaste tat the parents buy for them and will still continue to use it till ....
Well... u still can say tat love, destiny and fate still works in a differrent sense
( Say first hor.. this is debate... And sorry for poor english hor ) -
Toothpaste vs Human....
So you choose might not work or might work? I blur.. Sorry -
Hanor..... hanor...... We always have the right to choose.Originally posted by Nata|ie:Got attached by no choice de meh?
Can force de ah?? First time hear wor
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Isn't that a rather pessimistic outlook on love?Originally posted by popikachu:Enjoy single life while you can...
When you fall in love...
Nothings but troubles come... 
Opposites always co-exist: 
Love can get one into heaven
But so can it throw one into hell.........
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blah... I choose might work ...Originally posted by Nata|ie:Toothpaste vs Human....
So you choose might not work or might work? I blur.. Sorry
Toothpaste is just illustrating this type of concept called brand loyalty which is used in marketing... -
I beg to differ....
I doubt it can work.
How can someone who have not met his/her partner before marry that person?
It's like forum outing ma. U haven see the person before how u noe u can click?
We talking about a marriage here. It's a lifetime commitment, sacred and not child's play.
There are too many "what if's" in a blind marriage that may result in an ugly outcome.
Maybe 1 in 10 blind marriages work, but with such low statistics, surely people will rather choose their own partners. Someone that they love, someone that they can 'click' with and with similar interests, goals and etc. -
Originally posted by ispyyy:In these modern society where most are given the chances to be educated, most will understand pre-arranged marriage and no doubt pre-arranged marriages in now are very uncommon. But however, we cant deny the fact tat there are "people" who r willing to accept pre-arranged marriage... And these "people" is proven to have some similar characters in them since they choose the similar path...
(Above just tells tat people who r willing to accept pre-arranged marriage do have similar characters.. So the amount of "click" is not low)
Sadly, nothing last forever... Human's character also does not last... Human's personality changes thru time and events... For those normal marriage tat we experience, the click can be very high... But the high is only at tat particular time when both parties gladly say "I do"... But tat doesnt means tat thru time and events, the click will be at the same level... However, wat makes a marriage works is the affections between both parties... The amount of affection is either increased thru time, effort and "click". To further illustrate these type of affection:
(Above just tells tat normal marriage and pre-arranged marriage does not have much difference in long term)
Take for example :
if u have used a brand colgate toothpaste for 20 over years, will it be easy for u to switch brand after 20 years ???
This is how I define affection ... And tat type of affections last till one dies...
(Just proving the fact tat marriage does not depend solely on click)
And of coz, taking back the colgate example... Parents buy toothpaste for their kids... And kids uses the toothpaste without looking at the spec , noeing the cost, noeing the bland and blah blah... Anyway, a toothpaste is just a toothpaste...
After 20 years of using the similar, some kids will grow affection on tat particular brand of toothpaste tat the parents buy for them and will still
continue to use it till ....
(Just illustrating the fact tat the pre arranged concept does happen since the parents have the most experience in marriage... And we r like a kid to parents' eyes)
Well... u still can say tat love, destiny and fate still works in a differrent sense
( Say first hor.. this is debate... And sorry for poor english hor ) -
How about people who are not willing? But forced by parents?
If 2 person cannot even click, how to make the marriage work? Both person have different opinions, needs, wants and goals. If they are not looking at the same direction, they will still split eventually.
Marriage shld not be for convenience or just for the sake of getting married. -
Originally posted by Nata|ie:I beg to differ....
I doubt it can work.
How can someone who have not met his/her partner before marry that person?
It's like forum outing ma. U haven see the person before how u noe u can click?
There r many kinds of people... Some people willing to marry without meeting his/her partner...Probably to save time or watever... However, such people are very few... And usually this people already belong to the same grp liao... And hence, they have some level of click in them
We talking about a marriage here. It's a lifetime commitment, sacred and not child's play.
To our parents' eyes, we r just like kids towards marriage... Since it is a lifetime commitment, we do not have any experience in marriage at all... Wont it be better to let the experience 1 help to take care of our marriage??? Besides, it save u the trouble of building up the relationship between yr husband/wife to yr parents... After all, most case of marriage unhappiness is their in-laws
There are too many "what if's" in a blind marriage that may result in an ugly outcome.
Well... marriage tat u choose may also result in an ugly outcome... At least, if these type of blind marriage tat result in an ugly outcome, u r not alone... coz, the decision is came mainly from yr family... at least, u do not need to bear the whole burden... hahahaa...
Maybe 1 in 10 blind marriages work, but with such low statistics, surely people will rather choose their own partners. Someone that they love, someone that they can 'click' with and with similar interests, goals and etc.
Because of such low statistics and people even want to choose blind marriage tat proves tat they r really different from normal people... Think it will be better for them to choose people of their same kind... N beside 'click' is not the only factor tat contributes to marriage work -
Originally posted by Nata|ie:How about people who are not willing? But forced by parents?
Our topic is :- "Will couples, without noeing each other but agreed to get married , 's marriage work ?"
So I supposed they r willing ba... But however, if they do forced by their parents, in some cases, paternity or maternity may kick in n may result the marriage to work... But however, let's dont go over the border... coz, I may lose leh if u keep attacking this point...
If 2 person cannot even click, how to make the marriage work? Both person have different opinions, needs, wants and goals. If they are not looking at the same direction, they will still split eventually.
Marriage does not depends solely on 'click' only... We have seen people who have different opinions, needs, wants and goals n yet marriage still works... Marriage also depends on tolerence for this case...
Marriage shld not be for convenience or just for the sake of getting married.
Well... some people who chooses pre-arrange marriage does not mean for convenience... they just want to have a soul mate to accompany them in life... They desire to an opposite companion ... desire some1 to love on... -
hahah, ask qs about moon, now discussing abt sun. hahah
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Originally posted by extrinsic:hahah, ask qs about moon, now discussing abt sun. hahah
pre arrange marriage is attached by no choice mah....
now debating slight the same except the couples r willingly...
join in debate lah... -
LoL it will truly be a sad news if we human after endless year of evolution finally end up losing to a animate object that we created in the 1st place. Dawin for one will be kicking in his grave for even wasting time coming up with evident to support his theory. If we would ever to lose, i rather lost it to one of those Japanese made animate slave robotic sex dolls then to a toothpaste.Originally posted by Nata|ie:Toothpaste vs Human.... -
nah... the toothpaste theory is just to illustration on how a human's mind work ...Originally posted by EarlNeo:LoL it will truly be a sad news if we human after endless year of evolution finally end up losing to a animate object that we created in the 1st place. Dawin for one will be kicking in his grave for even wasting time coming up with evident to support his theory. If we would ever to lose, i rather lost it to one of those Japanese made animate slave robotic sex dolls then to a toothpaste.
Coz, usually, we cant understand ourself.. but if we compare ourself to something simple, we can understand y does these happen... -
but me nv heard of any toothpaste or toothbrush theory.Originally posted by ispyyy:nah... the toothpaste theory is just to illustration on how a human's mind work ...
Coz, usually, we cant understand ourself.. but if we compare ourself to something simple, we can understand y does these happen...
wadever the case is, wadever theory that is so donkey yrs ago might not applies to current liao.