Lust and Relationship

• xavier1979

  3 Jun 08, 20:49

  Dear all, like to find out about your opinion on two issues:

  1. Is lust important in a relationship?
  2. Can a relationship last without sex?

   

  My answer to the above is (1) Yes and (2) No.

• QX179R

  3 Jun 08, 20:51

  it all boils down to the self-control of that person..

• ChingAlvin

  3 Jun 08, 20:56

  (1) Yes (2) No.

  The important thing, is the frequency of it.

• Viva Voce

  3 Jun 08, 21:54

  (1) Yes

  (2) Personally, No. But yes it has been done before, it is still being done, and it will continue to be done.

• dumbdumb!

  3 Jun 08, 21:56

  Originally posted by xavier1979:

  Dear all, like to find out about your opinion on two issues:

  1. Is lust important in a relationship?
  2. Can a relationship last without sex?

   

  My answer to the above is (1) Yes and (2) No.

  my answer is.. yes to both.

  lust to me.. is a desire, it's gonna be hard to be in a relationship if you both don't desire each other. may not be physical desire.. can be companionship etc.

  if you don't think of each other subconsciously.. do you really love that person? or maybe you're taking that person for granted.

• genetex

  4 Jun 08, 15:03

  Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

  my answer is.. yes to both.

  lust to me.. is a desire, it's gonna be hard to be in a relationship if you both don't desire each other. may not be physical desire.. can be companionship etc.

  if you don't think of each other subconsciously.. do you really love that person? or maybe you're taking that person for granted.

  Yes to both questions

  i agree with dumbdumb that lust is necessary in a relationship. it keeps both parties interested in the r/s. lust is having intense sexual desire and having sex is putting that intense desire into action.

  Having said that, i believe sex is not a key factor in relationships. what's important is the companionship and the intellectual connection with the other party. hence, i think r/s can last without sex.

• XxYaNxX

  4 Jun 08, 18:05

  Yes to both , relationships without sex can last as long with ones with sex. Depends on the person really

• FirePig

  4 Jun 08, 18:39

  Originally posted by XxYaNxX:

  Yes to both , relationships without sex can last as long with ones with sex. Depends on the person really

  
  Depends on the TWO person in the relationship. Girls also have lust okay? (Almost everyone wants to have sex, eventually having babies to continue the family line)

• I-like-flings(m)

  4 Jun 08, 22:14

  No

  Yes.

   

  And.. what got lust have to do with relationship??? i really dun get it..lust = horny = sex =/= relationship

• BrUtUs

  5 Jun 08, 12:43

  Originally posted by xavier1979:

  Dear all, like to find out about your opinion on two issues:

  1. Is lust important in a relationship?
  2. Can a relationship last without sex?

   

  My answer to the above is (1) Yes and (2) No.

  
  1) yes

  2) depends.... a low sex drive couple will be ok without it... but its normal guy n gal will be No...

• BrUtUs

  5 Jun 08, 12:45

  Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):

  No

  Yes.

   

  And.. what got lust have to do with relationship??? i really dun get it..lust = horny = sex =/= relationship

  
  wa u reali draw the line.... good equation

• dumbdumb!

  5 Jun 08, 13:34

  Originally posted by BrUtUs:

  
  wa u reali draw the line.... good equation

  hmm if i elaborate on it..

  a good relationship will have elements of lust, depending on the.. level of need of the couple.

  but lust do not, cannot, must not define the relationship.

  i have a friend who switched like 3 gfs ever since i first knew him. and the relationship always... sorta goes downhill after the sex gets boring.

• RedizAlertz

  5 Jun 08, 13:46

  Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):

  No

  Yes.

  And.. what got lust have to do with relationship??? i really dun get it..lust = horny = sex =/= relationship

  I agree with the above. 

  Defination of lust : Lust is any intense desire or craving for self gratification and excitement.   http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lust

  
  

  In a relationship, it's called Passion.  So to ans ur qns :

  (1) No 

  (2) Yes

• dumbdumb!

  5 Jun 08, 13:48

  Originally posted by RedizAlertz:

  I agree with the above. 

  Defination of lust : Lust is any intense desire or craving for self gratification and excitement.   http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lust

  
  

  In a relationship, it's called Passion.  So to ans ur qns :

  (1) No 

  (2) Yes

  lol it just.. makes it sound politically correct =x

• Eridanus

  7 Jun 08, 06:30

  No and yes.

• Gosu.

  17 Jun 08, 14:48

  No and yes. Relationships tend to go downhill rather than uphill after sex. Like a sense of gratifaction or achievement for guys, have to move on to "another goal"

• SBS7484P

  17 Jun 08, 14:51

  no to both.

  to lust is usually to desire of sex with the other party, promicuous sia.

  second is no from me, cos a healthy relationship works out on love and attraction btw both parties, not working out thru always having sex.