Last time my Christian gf dumped me
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oh you edited your post
never mind
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Originally posted by parn:
She did gave you a choice if you really want to be together with her, all you need to do is to convert.Who asked you to abandon her and refused to convert?
Who asked you to use your relationship as bargaining chips to argue with her?
If you had made up your mind not to be together with her and lost the relationship due to your miscalculated gamble, why you come here and whine about it?
Do you think you will be happier with her if you had AGREED to convert?
If not, then why do you come here and whine when you have lost your gamble after you have placed your relationship at risks, using it as a bargaining chip against your girlfriend?
Maybe now you will learn something, BE PREPARED TO LOSE SHOULD YOU THINK THAT YOU COULD USE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AS A BARGAINING CHIP.
<<Who asked you to abandon her and refused to convert?>>
I dun get since when TS said he abadoned her, he just merely dun want to convert but to continue with the relationship.
<<Who asked you to use your relationship as bargaining chips to argue with her?>>
i see no signs of bargaining, not even the word 'bargain' in the starting post. i dunno where your idea of arguing and quarreling coming from?
<<If you had made up your mind not to be together with her and lost the relationship due to your miscalculated gamble, why you come here and whine about it?>>
What is the gamble here? i see the starting post no head no tail, just saying that the gf wanted him to convert and he refused and that's it only. Like i say before, there must be a fire before a smoke come out. either TS or the gf never come out tell us why she never ask him to convert at the start of relationship, but in the midst of it. Dun u find it strange?
Back to topic proper, what do u look for when you ask your friend to become christian.
His/her physical body at the chruch , but with heart not at the church?
His/her both physical body and heart is at church ?
Which do you prefer?
In TS's case, even if the gf managed to get him to convert, do you think TS's heart will be at the church? Going into marriage, sooner or later will cause strain, quarrels will occur over religion,isn't lose-lose for both parties?
What is the essence of a relationship?
Just simply love each other for what they are as you have mentioned.
Let me know if my post have offended you in anyway, as this is one of first few time i tried to field out my thoughts and opinions,and may not be as diplomatic as others do.
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The girl is childish. Probably doesnt know much about her own religion anyway. Good riddance to her.
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Originally posted by TTFU:
The girl is childish. Probably doesnt know much about her own religion anyway. Good riddance to her.
Forcing ppl to convert is bad.
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you all shouldn't get together in the first place
love exceeds all boundaries is nonsense; always remember this
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Originally posted by kengkia:
<<Who asked you to abandon her and refused to convert?>>
I dun get since when TS said he abadoned her, he just merely dun want to convert but to continue with the relationship.
<<Who asked you to use your relationship as bargaining chips to argue with her?>>
i see no signs of bargaining, not even the word 'bargain' in the starting post. i dunno where your idea of arguing and quarreling coming from?
<<If you had made up your mind not to be together with her and lost the relationship due to your miscalculated gamble, why you come here and whine about it?>>
What is the gamble here? i see the starting post no head no tail, just saying that the gf wanted him to convert and he refused and that's it only. Like i say before, there must be a fire before a smoke come out. either TS or the gf never come out tell us why she never ask him to convert at the start of relationship, but in the midst of it. Dun u find it strange?
Back to topic proper, what do u look for when you ask your friend to become christian.
His/her physical body at the chruch , but with heart not at the church?
His/her both physical body and heart is at church ?
Which do you prefer?
In TS's case, even if the gf managed to get him to convert, do you think TS's heart will be at the church? Going into marriage, sooner or later will cause strain, quarrels will occur over religion,isn't lose-lose for both parties?
What is the essence of a relationship?
Just simply love each other for what they are as you have mentioned.
Let me know if my post have offended you in anyway, as this is one of first few time i tried to field out my thoughts and opinions,and may not be as diplomatic as others do.
I cannot be explaining and replying to your every single queries and curiousity from my reply posts.And I certainly do not wish to be burdened by it.
I hope you can ask someone else to explain it to you.
Everybody have things that are dear and important to them in their lives. In TS's case, his girlfriend had treated her religion as something that is dear and important to her.
TS should understands his girlfriend well enough to know if a yes is really a YES or a "YES" and if a no is really a NO or a "NO".
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Then what about yourself? Do you put ya religion before your loved ones or you put loved ones before religion?