He is trying his very best. Let him!
No offence but your granmar is really bad, just let your bf be come on. Yes he's GPA is bad, and even if he go poly he will be 10 years younger but so what. Seriously, when I was in nitec there was this 30 something year old lady studying in my course (though for a few days). It's not that bad. Now in my HNitec there is this 24 year old classmate, a lot of people starts studying after going NS/working etc. But hoenstly from what I read about your own post you don't seem to care about what your bf wants more like what you want...
Better leave your boyfriend now.
okay firstly if you feel that he isn't good enough for you or what he is doing isn't then maybe he really isn't and it's time to move on and not waste your time.
secondly on his side, it is actually a really good thing that he is aware of what he have done and not done and trying to make amends for himself which is to go back to studying. of course your concerns are valid but put yourself in his shoes, i believe he wants to be better and he can do better. education isn't everything but w/o it, especially in sgp. where can he go?
you got to think about it long term.
Last I remembered age has nothing to do with learning, there was this one Chinese quote I remembered while studying for higher Chinese haha. I don't know shit about the different Singapore education institutions, but the least you could do as his gf is give him support. Clearly he regrets his past, and clearly he wants to do something positive about his life, if he's fine with the age dilemma, you should be encouraging him. And honestly, did you just call your bf pathetic?? From what you've wrote I can infer that you have extremely low confidence on your bf, that you're bang on clear he's not making it in life. That's a toxic relationship if u ask me...
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i am on TS side. 24 years old still NITEC. forget it man. by the time uni 30. who pay??? uni not cheap leh. if go for private U dont waste time also...wont go very far. shld start working now. so many jobs out there. yoru bf can go be mechanic and all. then start his own biz. biz may fail. but study uni at 30 is waste of time and money...really
nothing wrong in chasing your dream. have a classmate who is 30 in poly, came out of uni somemore, but dont like what he doing, so went back poly. I do feel he abit never think properly. if he want go canada study, and have enuf money, just go there study lah. or maybe he should study something that doesnt really need to 'study'. As his gf, shouldnt u encourage him, help him study, or make him motivated? sounds like u just want him to give up , with such a spoil sport around, how can he get high gpa sia
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"Vision without action is just day dreaming
Action without vision is just time wasting
Vision and action can change your destiny" - Marist
sometimes studying doesn't have to equate to a qualification. in the course of studying, a person may encounter a brilliant idea that he can transform into a product and make him a very successful businessman. of course all this is a big question mark but as our LKY said, "with gumption and determination", who knows? you might change your destiny
I have a friend like that too. Although we're all still in secondary school and he is at the appropriate age, he has been scoring bady even though he has a clear idea of his aspirations and knows what he needs to do to achieve it.
I think that you should, in fact, support your BF. He has decided to go back to school at his age after screwing himself over in the past and like you said, it speaks highly of his character. I myself feel that Singapore's stuent body cares too much for social norms such as age-appropriate studies. As I recall, there was an article in the Straits Times in the past couple of years about an elderly woman in the US who got a degree for herself at the age of 90+. So it's not impossible for your BF to ake something of himself at this age.
Also, the SG system focuses more on hard work and memory than actual intelligence so if he really buckles down and gets to work, he'll be fine.