OR... you guys actually on his side with this one??
Well, if you have no problem of your BF is going to work in Mcdonalds or be a road sweeper by all means try to convince your BF to work outside soon.
Tell ur bf to do the last year of high school in canada, and transfer directly to a canadian university..be flexible
what is so wrong about him wanting to upgrade himself???
Some people start late this does not mean there is limit to education. I know of 1 prc in his late 20s did ITE and now in poly.
This guy is just doing what most people are not doing . It is not end of the world for people like him. Many times being superficial lead to too fast, immature and narrow minded judging.
Originally posted by BEARZAIS:Tell ur bf to do the last year of high school in canada, and transfer directly to a canadian university..be flexible
is it ok to tell me about this programme? are you being serious? because this does sound like a good idea
Originally posted by p228:You should not judge him too fast. He admitted that he made a mistake when he was young. What he is doing now is to turn over a new leaf and carry on his education. It’s never too late to study and learn.
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At least he is still willing to upgrade and serious about it. You should encourage him instead of being a wet blanket. I believe this is the period he needs encouragement the most to pull through this.
It’s not easy.. and never will be.. but as long as one is willing to persevere.. better days will be ahead.
ok i will just try to encourage him but he is feeling down lately due to his latest GPA. This is will be very tough for him and he is only in ITE. But i need to really emphasize on this, he is 24!! and he is stuck in ITE.... he is like the big brother in the classes to come
Originally posted by SJS6638:Some people start late this does not mean there is limit to education. I know of 1 prc in his late 20s did ITE and now in poly.
This guy is just doing what most people are not doing . It is not end of the world for people like him. Many times being superficial lead to too fast, immature and narrow minded judging.
ok i understand but is it not weird at all for him being the "oldest" in class ? with bunch of 17-18 years old student? i clearly think that is weird
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I see 30 something also go back to school. Whats the big deal 24 year old study ITE?
His parents can afford for him to study and not work.. you gf complain for what?
Why you want him go work ? You need his money?
You want money go earn it yourself lor.
You are a lousy gf. Hopefully he dumps you soon.
what wrong with that i had four over age meaning 23 year old full time student in ITE class and i am 17 that time. now one of them is a manger of a company which happen i meet him at a coffee shop with his family.
if i am him i might even leave you if you keep on saying things like this in this forum.
what? are u guys seriously this rude? look i just want best of him. Try to save him from embarrassement. I mean he keeps dreaming of going to university... i'm sorry ok but i highly doubt he can and i want to say it again, HE IS AGING. people who are 24+ and went to study are PRC's. i dont want this money, i jsut dont want him to get hurt even further
The only person in the relationship who should be embarrassed is you.
And no we are not rude, we are stating the obvious.
Disagreeing with your negativity and drama queen behavior is certainly not rude.
you're a rude girlfriend, maybe even mental.
If he is not good enough for you, you get out of the relationship.
Your nagging and belittling will not turn this guy into an Einstein.
A girl like you with limited IQ can't do much to help him anyway.
Go find someone else stupid enough to have you as a gf. But wait, you've already found your prince charming aka your bf.
There's no harm in taking a longer time and spending more resources to realise a dream.
If the dream does not happen, there is only disappointment.
You are disappointed in your guy. He's not as successful as you wish him to be.
But by the time he become successful and good enough for you. You will no longer be good enough for him, because you have AGED.
Your tities will be dangling like his balls and your bums will be saggy, that face of yours will be nothing but hag.
I recommend you dump this guy and go for another more "accomplished" person who is willing to overlook your lack of intellectual while you are still young. ( Attributing your lack of wisdom to naiviety and innocence).
Because by the time you are 30ish and you still talk like now, it will be too obvious your brain is not properly screwed on since you're a baby.
And sadly, that will prove that you make a lousy mother, as you'd probably make your children's life miserable by forcing them to quit school before 24 because they are all failures after a certain age.
Smart men go for smart women, because you can't teach what you don't know.. nobody wants a stupid wife to raise stupid kids.
Gettit kiddo ?
Originally posted by let_me_zip_u:what? are u guys seriously this rude? look i just want best of him. Try to save him from embarrassement. I mean he keeps dreaming of going to university... i'm sorry ok but i highly doubt he can and i want to say it again, HE IS AGING. people who are 24+ and went to study are PRC's. i dont want this money, i jsut dont want him to get hurt even further
how old are you, and what is your highest attained educational level?
can't see your bf having higher education than you?
Why don't girls in this country serve NS as well? This question is the best answer to the one of the reason why her BF is become too old to study. Isn't this the era of gender equality?
Most important this country's problem is employers is focused too much on paper qualification, even sales jobs like financial adviser, you still need to take M5, M9 examination to apply for an licence to qualify for the job.At least an poly diploma just give you an 'discount' to skip certain module. Even the 'older' financial adviser is not spared and together with the 'younger' colleague they had to take examination together to renew their licence, otherwise they would be out of the job. You think being weird to study and taking lesson with their younger colleagues is their main concern?!!
Finally the pathway to obtain an qualification is also long due to credibility issue. You tell your future boss you got shorter route to obtain an degree I doubted that would make your resume 'stand out' to other applicant who took long path to obtain an degree. You didn't mind the 'younger' candidate be your BF's manager and didn't feel weird about that by all mean convinced your BF to start working.
omg jojobeach WHAT THE HELL??!! you and my bf needs to realize that he scored a LOW FREAKING GPA of 2.1!!! 2.1 on his 1st year!!!! that is freaking low.. there is no way he can succeed further to university or along the road. Look i loved him because of himself. Just that his "dream" keep making him blind and soon it will be too late for him to realize that he wasted his life.
So yeah, as HIS GF.. i need to make him wake up. sorry OK? but i have to play the age card again.. he is 24!!! ITE!!!
and to the username 'The code', u sound really experienced... is what u said all true? bosses look upon from where the roots are rather than how they grab it? and sorry but i think age do sometimes plays a part. And also that age factor you mentioned was more or less being forced to... not an option like ITE
Originally posted by let_me_zip_u:omg jojobeach WHAT THE HELL??!! you and my bf needs to realize that he scored a LOW FREAKING GPA of 2.1!!! 2.1 on his 1st year!!!! that is freaking low.. there is no way he can succeed further to university or along the road. Look i loved him because of himself. Just that his "dream" keep making him blind and soon it will be too late for him to realize that he wasted his life.
So yeah, as HIS GF.. i need to make him wake up. sorry OK? but i have to play the age card again.. he is 24!!! ITE!!!
and to the username 'The code', u sound really experienced... is what u said all true? bosses look upon from where the roots are rather than how they grab it? and sorry but i think age do sometimes plays a part. And also that age factor you mentioned was more or less being forced to... not an option like ITE
Ah, you're more psychotic and ignorant than I initially thought.
What do you think your boyfriend is doing in ITE ? Learn how to belly dance ?
Your bf needs some kind of qualification/skill to compete in the job market.
Let him finish his ITE education first. Whether he can get into Uni or not, it's up to the uni administrators to decide.
If dreaming big is his motivation to get a qualification, so be it !
When our company hire, we don't hire based on age. We have hundreds of applicants even for simple receptionist jobs. The ages are all over the place.
We don't just pick out the younger applicants and throw out the older ones.
In fact we don't like young people. Their immaturity is often a setback than an advantage. They are often flight risks and they don't assimilate well into our more experienced workforce.
In order to make them productive, we have to train them and grow them, it's a resource drain. And there's no guarantee they won't jump ship over a $50 raise.
You need to stop being so freaking obsessed with his age and let him finish his current ITE education !
When he go into an interview and the hiring manager ask him, why he didn't continue his education after secondary school.. how will he look when he tells the manager because his gf force him to quit ITE ?
My assessment on you still stand. You're a dumb girlfriend. A very big and clumsy tripping stone. he really needs to get rid of you for his own good.
The Minister of Singapore say it's never too old to learn and educate yourself but of course if he is 24 in second year ITE it's not really too late for him if he sucessfully complete ITE with good gpa 3.2+ chances are you're able to enter poly and 24yr old + 3 year sucessfully graduate from poly with no repeats he should be 27 year old. He can take up some part-time job while studying
but i see your point there just ite cert is really hard to get a job these day and i think even poly cert might also be the same case as ite cert in coming future since we already knew world-wide uni graduates can't even get jobs so they come to singapore aka foregins talent taking up everything so you really can't compete with them. So might as well quit studying and get working experience but again if he is going to canada or austrilia the life there sure is slower, and standards are lower compare to fast pace singapore life afterall they are caucasian people tend to take life at slower pace relaxing life and live happily and asians are the crazy competers 24/7 non-stop like robots....
In my case i'm 2013 intake many of my friends from electronic course who got 3.2 - 3.5 gpa all are able to enter NYP it was pretty shocking i was gpa 3.7 + - 0.2 cca student council that 3.9gpa didn't got in Singapore poly but got into NYP and the first year i went in i'm already crying i miss the life of ITE teachers there teach till you really understand and slower pace oh and i'm Nitec electronic driectly jump to poly first year which was a really bad mistake coz you will struggle in maths and physics that the 2 module first year 100% all ite students will repeat unless ur the god like kind...so back to the NYP life it's hell really almost everything i currently learnt is like 50-50 understand or highest is 75% understand or totally blank...alot of projects time given is divde by 2 shorter compare to ite and you have alot of sht to complete. There time i really felt quittig or felt like leaving this world aka killing myself but i'm still surviving im in year 2 term 2 coming to the end so far my gpa was 1.2gpa really desperate to see this gpa from 3.9gpa to 1.2gpa now i just please god just lemme pass everything and sucessfully graduate from poly but even if i graduate i don't think i'll show my poly cert to my boss i rather show the ite one....life is tough
So in the end he has to decide which road he wanna take weather is bad or good he has to deal it you can't change one decision rather you must support him and encourage him maybe that way he will achieve something at the end of the day life is short don't regret anything behind when you left this world...i know i sound like a old man but im 21 currently havent been in the army but i've seen alot of whats going on with this world...
TS, not that I oppose freedom of ideas. I think if your BF is those kinds that are 3 minutes enthusiasm or he is the type that cannot ensure the stress of study, or later he choose to 'study' smartphone/video game or want to go pub to 'chong', then he better off go to work to SUFFER and grow up.
Trust me, if your BF is still depend on his parent to spoon-feed him to study, I didn't think he will get the motivational for his education or even feel the 'pain' if he choose to give up again. The fact that some of the people I know choose to 'drop out' of poly in year one or two because they score badly (they studying in group by talking cork I presumed) just prove this point. That why I feel that working and study part-time is the only best way for your BF for learning and be independent.
Yah right. He drop out of school go suffer already, then what? Can he come back to ITE to finish his cert?
He will have to pay private cost to continue his studies instead of government subsidised programs.
He will be working full time and study part time, that means he will have no time for gf.
He also will have chance to go meet those sexy working class ladies. Yummy.
Assuming he dont continue study. Today he is 24 year old with secondary school qualification, 5 years later he will still be a secondary level holder. 10 years later same.
He will never go up the corporate ladder. He will see young guys step over his head every promotion.
If thats what you call not hurting him, well be my guest and tell him to just quit.
Afterall, someone needs to sweep the floors and clean those toilets.
Studying is not for everyone but if you have working experiences you can still achieve it how? First you must be willing to learn, willing to put in effort, and doesn't scare of hardwork bosses loves this kind of people.
If you have long experience in this specialist in this job even grad with like uni degree holder freshmen can't compete with you cause they know really nothing they are all go according to lecture notes like what jojobeach said
"In fact we don't like young people. Their immaturity is often a setback than an advantage. They are often flight risks and they don't assimilate well into our more experienced workforce.
In order to make them productive, we have to train them and grow them, it's a resource drain. And there's no guarantee they won't jump ship over a $50 raise."
So rather start early get a job get real working experience if studying is not suitable for you and if you want the job put in effort for the job even if really have to start from scatch also must endure it be loyal to the company, you will have a stable position for your job.
If going by studying road poly is hard to graduate and coming near future poly cert will be as sht as ite cert becoz nowadays people are achieving not just uni degree but PHD degree maybe next time have UPHD , SPHD or whatever when there too much PHD on earth comfirm they will make it higher ranks then next generation will suffer like something worst then hell standard of education only get harder every years it will not become easier i won't be shock if 1 day secondary school students studying current uni modules in future like 2080 or w/e how you gonna vs them i think even i grad i cant get a good job coz even uni people cant get job why would they invite people from poly.
Option 3 leave singapore and go to a easier country without much competer and get a oversea cert usually oversea is more easier to grad compare to any sg uni or poly.
But these are just options might be useful or might not be so please don't judge me